panik | I've started the process of pruning my flist.

Really, it's getting awfully crowded and there are a lot of people here who don't ever post or probably even read or with whom I no longer have much in common, or share much in the way of opinions and attitudes, or else I friended a long time ago but they never friended me back so... I'm guessing they want to leave as much as I need to reduce the size of m'flist but are much too nice and polite to say so.

Anyway, it's almost spring and it's time. I'm not pruning much, just a little...

If you've found yourself removed and care,, I'm more than happy to have you stay - just leave a comment and I'll re-friend you.

I'm just doing a litle spring cleaning, both in RL and LJ-life. It's nothing personal.

ETA: Remaining flist (*g*) - where do you stand on people who don't friend you back? There are quite a few on my flist. I've ditched some but there are others that are friends of friends, that I see regularly around the place - mostve been on my flist a good long while and haven't returned the compliment so, presumably, don't care to have me around...? I'm not sure I want to stay friended to someone who clearly doesn't want the same from me, but I don't want to offend or seem like I'm flouncing...? Man... This is getting complicated. *g*

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Pruning is good who wants to keep skipping over posts that you never read in the first place. My list is so small I almost always friend everyone back, but that is usually because I've gone and read their journal or know of them at least peripherally.

I have a lot on my list who haven't friended me back and that is okay.
1. Maybe they don't post/read much
or
2. Maybe they have too many friends and I got lost in the shuffle.
or
3. Maybe they don't like me. ::waaaa::

I don't think 3 is really a reason. But only they know. LOL

I enjoy lj and when it becomes so bogged down with journals you have no interest in you've got to prune. Hopefully no one should be offended by it, RL friends drop away from us so it's inevitable that in lj the same thing happens.

This is how I'm starting to think. As I told Wordwitch, I used to friend lots of people - mostly fandom-folk, because LJ is where I come to relax, not debate - but also people who mysteriously friended me even though I had little in common with them and often disagreed quite violently with their politics and views on the war etc - because I think it's good to be 'friends' with people you disagree with.

BUT... Oh man; my flist has become so VAST and unwieldy and I'm skimming so much - then so many fandom-friends have moved on and so have I and I think the time has come to start doing a little snipping.

I just wanted to make this post first so that anyone who gets pruned and wants to stay knows it's nothing personal and they're welcome to stay if they wish.

I've started the process of pruning my flist.

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RL friends drop away from us so it's inevitable that in lj the same thing happens.