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posted by [identity profile] janedavitt.livejournal.com at 02:00pm on 20/02/2008
There are people on my list I've friended who haven't added me back; usually BNFs whose fic/meta I'm interested in, which is really the whole point of friending, except the name adds other layers of meaning... Doesn't really bother me not to get friended back. My fic/ ramblings don't interest them or they're too busy to add more LJs to their reading list; either way, not a biggie.

I have a lot of people who have me friended and I haven't friended back after all; couple of hundred of them in fact.

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posted by [identity profile] gillyp.livejournal.com at 08:26pm on 20/02/2008
With me, it's more the people who I friended eons ago, who I see everyday on my friend's lists and so have a degree of interaction with, but who have clearly - deliberately indeed - chosen not to friend me back that worry me a tad. I just wonder why I cling to their company when they obviously don't want mine? )o:
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posted by [identity profile] wneleh.livejournal.com at 01:27pm on 21/02/2008
Umm... Well, I'd considered friending you for quite a while before you friended me. The reason I didn't was that you were going through some issues that semi-mirrored mine at the time. I was barely holding it together a lot of the time, and really needed my f-list to help me with that. If we'd actually known each other IRL, of course I'd have tried to be supportive, but since we didn't know each other, and I had very little support to give...

Anyway, I'm making a hash of this, but just thought I'd throw in that failure-to-friend doesn't mean someone never checks out your journal; and it may be a lot more about them than you. (Like, I suspect my happy-mommy posts are not what a lot of what the people I have friended, that haven't reciprocated, want to be reading!)

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posted by [identity profile] gillyp.livejournal.com at 03:01pm on 21/02/2008
Ah... tbh, I really don't remember how I came to friend you; I probably just saw you around a lot on other friend's ljs - but I'm happy I did (and the people I'm thinking of giving up on are ones I friended long before you and it just feels like time - I'm not ditching them all; some are just BNFs with massive flists and that's fair enough, but others aren't.)

Sorry you've been going through a bad time too.
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posted by [identity profile] wneleh.livejournal.com at 03:32pm on 21/02/2008
We seem to run in similar circles (TS fandom, mostly); anyway, I see comments by you pretty frequently :-)

Sorry you've been going through a bad time too.

Thanks. Actually, since October things have been good. But July-October was tough.

- Helen
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