I've started the process of pruning my flist.

[panik]

Really, it's getting awfully crowded and there are a lot of people here who don't ever post or probably even read or with whom I no longer have much in common, or share much in the way of opinions and attitudes, or else I friended a long time ago but they never friended me back so... I'm guessing they want to leave as much as I need to reduce the size of m'flist but are much too nice and polite to say so.

Anyway, it's almost spring and it's time. I'm not pruning much, just a little...

If you've found yourself removed and care,, I'm more than happy to have you stay - just leave a comment and I'll re-friend you.

I'm just doing a litle spring cleaning, both in RL and LJ-life. It's nothing personal.

ETA: Remaining flist (*g*) - where do you stand on people who don't friend you back? There are quite a few on my flist. I've ditched some but there are others that are friends of friends, that I see regularly around the place - mostve been on my flist a good long while and haven't returned the compliment so, presumably, don't care to have me around...? I'm not sure I want to stay friended to someone who clearly doesn't want the same from me,  but I don't want to offend or seem like I'm flouncing...? Man... This is getting complicated. *g*

Comments

[janedavitt.livejournal.com]

There are people on my list I've friended who haven't added me back; usually BNFs whose fic/meta I'm interested in, which is really the whole point of friending, except the name adds other layers of meaning... Doesn't really bother me not to get friended back. My fic/ ramblings don't interest them or they're too busy to add more LJs to their reading list; either way, not a biggie.

I have a lot of people who have me friended and I haven't friended back after all; couple of hundred of them in fact.

[gillyp.livejournal.com]

With me, it's more the people who I friended eons ago, who I see everyday on my friend's lists and so have a degree of interaction with, but who have clearly - deliberately indeed - chosen not to friend me back that worry me a tad. I just wonder why I cling to their company when they obviously don't want mine? )o:

[wneleh.livejournal.com]

Umm... Well, I'd considered friending you for quite a while before you friended me. The reason I didn't was that you were going through some issues that semi-mirrored mine at the time. I was barely holding it together a lot of the time, and really needed my f-list to help me with that. If we'd actually known each other IRL, of course I'd have tried to be supportive, but since we didn't know each other, and I had very little support to give...

Anyway, I'm making a hash of this, but just thought I'd throw in that failure-to-friend doesn't mean someone never checks out your journal; and it may be a lot more about them than you. (Like, I suspect my happy-mommy posts are not what a lot of what the people I have friended, that haven't reciprocated, want to be reading!)

[gillyp.livejournal.com]

Ah... tbh, I really don't remember how I came to friend you; I probably just saw you around a lot on other friend's ljs - but I'm happy I did (and the people I'm thinking of giving up on are ones I friended long before you and it just feels like time - I'm not ditching them all; some are just BNFs with massive flists and that's fair enough, but others aren't.)

Sorry you've been going through a bad time too.

[wneleh.livejournal.com]

We seem to run in similar circles (TS fandom, mostly); anyway, I see comments by you pretty frequently :-)

Sorry you've been going through a bad time too.

Thanks. Actually, since October things have been good. But July-October was tough.

- Helen