I'm in a real quandry about me website. : comments [Welcome to my perfumed garden]

Eh, it's a quandary. I imagine maintaining the downloads is a pretty thankless task, although I know from coomments I see here and there that a lot of people use them. £100 is a lot, though, if your heart's not in it.

I heartily recommend Rhianne as a mistress, um, er, I mean webmistress ;-)

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You can't begin to imagine, really, you should see the emails I get sometimes - but then, knowing tsome members of this fandom, you can probably imagine only too well. *g*
It's not just the money, I've been feeling more than a bit taken for granted about it for some time now. No one ever goes here aside from the dls and the sense of entitlement about those bloody episodes beggars belief. I think it'll be a masive relief when it's gone, tbh. ::sigh::

I'll chat to Rhianne about hosting the dls, though she should know in advance, it's a massively thankless task

::is feeling incredibly sad about it all::

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Eh, I can imagine all too well, sadly. Plus I'm perhaps feeling rather unforgiving of fandom at the moment, since I've had an epiphany about it all recently which has resulted in a decision not to have much to do with it from now on. Love writing my stories, hate the sense of entitlement that people have about them.

So as far as the downloads go, I can totally understand you wanting to give it up. Hope your stories will still be available somewhere, though - I re-read them often. You are one of my favourite writers, as I've told you many a time before :-).

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You too, huh? *g*

My love-affair with fandome hath been a very up and down, swings n roundabouts kind of thing and I am thoroughly out of love with it at the moment. I've kinda resolved to quietly write my fic and little else. I'm not even reading much anymore, just the occasional piece from writers I know and love. I've fallen back in love with books, tbh. I'm reviewing a lot of new novels for Amazon. For a while,there, I'd almost forgotten how good books can be. :o) And I'm getting into the world of my own novel now, and though Jim and Blair will always live in my head and heart *g* - I think I maybe I just don't need fandom so much anymore?

Whoa. This is getting a bit soul-searchy and maudlin! *G* I am feeling more than a bit grief-striken over the death of my site but then, that's nothing new - that's been going on for about 2 years. *g* I've been awake half the night worrying about it and what to do but my heart's telling me it's never coming back to life and I'll be happier by far when I let it go.

Gosh, I'm feeling awfully sad. I had a lot of emotion and history - a lot of myself tied up in that tatty little site but the more I think about it, the more I'm sure I'm doing the right thing. And all else aside, it's a lot of dosh! You know, I'd rather have an ipod or an Xbox. I could buy 40 second-hand books off Amazon for what that site will cost to renew.

The fic and reports, I can host elsewhere - there's plenty of ad-free freespace and if al else fails, I can take a little corner of Mark's website. The fic's not going anywhere, honey - thanks for saying such kind things. ::hugs you::

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Heh, I've been reading a list recently full of old-school know-it-alls with a very high opinion of themselves, and people who desperately want to be regarded as old-school-know-it-alls. It has led me to the certain conclusion that fandom is 99.9% full of people who are up their own arses!

It's certainly not as if I don't get anything out of it, though, so I hesitate to cut all my ties as that would be definitely cutting off my nose to spite my face. Flouncing is so not my thing, man! I love LJ (probably because it *is* possible to set comfortable parameters) as well as the lovely people I've met and continue to meet, and I still love Jim and Blair with a passion. But I am all for defining my own fannish space free of arseholes, and operating within my own personal comfort zone, hence the fact that I completely understand where you are coming from :-).

Whoops I used the word arse rather a lot there. Quite freudian, perhaps? ;-)

So! My advice is define your own space, and enjoy it within parameters you can live with. You don't owe anybody anything, and you've already given a hell of a lot. And don't lose sight of the fact that, in amongst the people who've been rude, obnoxious and entitled, there are also people (some of them who are not all that good at expressing it) who've genuinely been grateful for what you did ::hugs::.

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Ah. Is this a list I know? I suspect not, the biddies-knitting circle of Constant Complaint has been mostly silent on the very few lists I still frequent of late.

What a complicated sentence that was.

Flouncing huh. Am I flouncing? ::is worried:: I don't mean to suggest you're accusing me of taking the site down as a flounce (she said hastily) - said site just seems to me an expensive waste of my time, all the things I enjoyed about it died and all attempts to revive them have failed and - I just don't care much any more - But I can see how it could be construed as flouncing. I hope no one will think that of me because it's not the case at all. ::is full of neuroses and doubt::

I agree with everything else you said SO whole heartedly. TS yes, fandom... sometimes, but more and more, no. It's just so up it's own arse and it's not just the older contingent that we know and... whatever.*g* It's a lot of the newer ones too. I just feel myself withdrawing from all that. I have new interests that, to a large extent, are filling the hole that fandom used to.

Your final par fills me with warmth like the hot toddy you've just given me the idea to make. I love you. You're a glittering star in the firmament of this fandom, honey.Long may you shine. ♥

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I will PM you about the list :-)

No, you're not flouncing. That word is usually reserved for those who need attention so badly that they throw a big hissy fit when they don't think their briliiance is being sufficiently recognised in the hopes of being begged to return. Several times, in some noteable cases. The repeat offenders never fail to make me giggle at their antics ;-). What you are doing is throwing in the towel when something onerous became too much. One is done by nutcases, the other is done by sensible people like you ;-)

Fandom ::flails::. I just... honestly, I dislike it so much these days. It's like my eyes have been opened, the glitter has so comprehensively worn off. Like you, I've got other things to occupy my time, and though I absolutely adore Jim and Blair I really don't give two hoots these days if I share that love with anyone but a few like minded souls. I'm keeping it all safely at arms length from now on! Sheesh, so many nutcases, and they're all over the place!

Much love to you too, honey ♥. Let's lick each other's bums in the time honoured tradition! \o/

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I had a similar soul-searchy thing a while ago. Jim & Blair helped me through some rough times, and when I was able to get back on my feet, I had reached an inevitable conclusion that, to quote YOU:

"...though Jim and Blair will always live in my head and heart *g* - I think I maybe I just don't need fandom so much anymore?"

:-)

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Yes, this ;-)

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